Before we start - a quick announcement: I’m launching a group coaching program in January! I have loved doing one on one coaching with so many of you this fall, and I’m making this update in an effort to build more affordability and accountability into the process. I’ll host two groups this winter, ranging from 2-6 participants, over the course of 12 sessions. We’ll work through exercises that help us reflect on how our setbacks have shaped us (even if we’re not going through one right now)...
15 days ago • 5 min read
I had no words in me when I woke up yesterday morning. I don’t know any more than the rest of you about politics, activism, about whether or not any of it was worth all this effort, nor can I tell you what the next four years will look like. By the afternoon I found myself able to write down just a few words, based on what I do know. And this moment feels like a massive societal setback. So I ran it through the four phases of The Setback Cycle because this is how my brain works and it’s how I...
27 days ago • 2 min read
I know we’re all feeling a bit anxious as we head into next week. If I’m not doing something, I’m feeling fidgety. I simultaneously feel like I’m doing a lot but getting nothing done. Anyone else? And how can we be better about channeling our anxiety into productivity? Is that even a healthy pursuit? My friend Morra Aarons-Mele talks about this all the time. She points out that ambition-fueled anxiety can actually benefit leaders and other high performing individuals: “It fuels their drive,...
about 1 month ago • 5 min read
Today is my birthday! I have to say, it’s going to be tough to top this past year. Not only because of the accomplishments you saw in public — though of course, the year I turned 40 will always be the year I became a bestselling author (and took every opportunity to scream that fun fact from the rooftops,) the year my daughter started elementary school and the year I went all in on my consulting business. I often say that 40 was the year I felt more like myself than ever before. Sharing this...
about 2 months ago • 5 min read
What would it take for you to feel satisfied with your job? Higher compensation? Achieving perfect work life balance? The sense that you’re working toward something meaningful? A recent Gallup report revealed that, “Americans are unhappier at work than they have been in years. Sixty percent of people reported being emotionally detached at work and 19% say they are miserable.” But why are we so detached? And what would it take for us to re-engage in our work? Is job satisfaction even possible...
2 months ago • 4 min read
There has been so much job movement this month, with many of you getting offers, changing companies, switching roles internally and making other big, bold moves. After what has seemed like a frustrating year for folks in the corporate world, it’s been so rewarding to see progress finally happening. Yet with every big, bold move comes the grief of what you have to leave behind. That grief stems from uncertainty along with a potential lack of clarity on whether or not it’s really time to leave....
3 months ago • 4 min read
Can you believe it’s September? I was all geared up to pop into your inboxes this morning with my favorite ways to reboot your routine this month (I still will, read on!) but I want to start by encouraging you to ease in slowly. Summer is so delightful, and while us New Yorkers love our fall, transitions are always hard. If you didn’t do everything you planned this summer, give yourself grace and think back to what you ended up doing instead. If like me, you're lamenting the earlier sunsets...
3 months ago • 5 min read
I really hope you’re enjoying what’s left of this glorious summer. I know I usually write about career advice and the balancing act of managing work with life and how it’s such such a struggle. I try to motivate you to do your best work and take pride in it. I try to help you frame the concept of ambition with your evolving definition of success and all that great, meaningful stuff that impacts your career. But right now I’m sitting by a lake watching my nephew swim around while my daughter...
4 months ago • 2 min read
I take so much pride in the wins of those around me. Probably moreso than I do my own. Last week, two of my clients reached major milestones. One celebrated a major, hard-earned promotion and the other got the green light to move forward on a huge marketing campaign we’ve been working to sell in to the organization’s leadership team for the past six months. It feels so good to talk about these wins. I’m smiling as I type this! As I was reveling in the accomplishments of the folks I work so...
4 months ago • 4 min read